Raising the BAR?

Is it sadistic hinging on cruel to make mileage of the fact that men think you are doing them a favor by letting them buy you coffee? I ask this purely in the context of work. I personally dont think so, given the disadvantages women face in workplaces, esp in India - for example, we almost always lose out on the special bonding that men indulge in only over drinks - decisions made, friendships created, secrets spilled, information shared - we very rarely get to even know about it, let alone be part of a drinks-do!

So think about it - there emerges a pretty strong case for women to use their appeal to the same end.

What atleast really means!

A very good friend of mine recently got engaged to this girl he had been going out with for 2 years. I had never met her and so asked them out for lunch when they were in town last weekend. But my friend seemed reluctant to bring her, which I thought was strange. Anyhow, she finally ended up coming.

To my unpleasant surprise, throughout the meal she kept nagging, taunting and critising my poor friend who just couldnt get a break. I am really not exaggerating here - she was downright rude and a TOTAL shrew! She kept snapping at him, jeering at his every sentence and generally trivialising everything he said. My friend is this really nice guy - kind, timid and really quite harmless. So I didnt see why she had to be that way.

If they werent engaged, I would really have told her off, but I decided to swallow my anger. Also, it was none of my business - you can never tell what holds a couple togther and for all I knew, they could be really happy.

But I couldnt resist in asking - so when she went out to take a call, I cautiously asked - are you sure this is the right girl for you?

Pat came the reply - No.

Then why are you engaged?

Atleast I am getting some!

So far so good.

Went to pick up my cousion today in Terminal 3 at the New Delhi airport thats just opened up for domestic flights...

Listened to my uncle telling me that the rent of his flat just doubled..

My aunt told me about a wedding she attended yesterday with whos-who in Delhi amongst the guests... 

Watched We The People on NDTV about the Telecom Spectrun Scam...

Read Rakhi Sawant saying that she is walking with God because her name is mentioned along with Shah Rukh and Amitab..

Have to attend a conference on helping the poor in one of the most expensive hotels in the city this week..

I suddenly feel very scared :(