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Thursday, February 25, 2010

Not here, not now.....not ever!

I'd written this some months back, but didnt feel like posting it then...

If we were caveman and cavewoman, we wouldve grunted approvingly at the same dinosaur carcass, never mind the imagery!

Thats when I knew he & I could be friends. Here was a guy who made me laugh....In about half an hour, we felt like old friends, it was that easy...

We actually met through this blog. He even lasted through the whole of it (he is evidently made of stern stuff ) and we got talking. Now I wasnt attracted to him or anything, I really wasnt....but this guy seemed incredibly nice, had a good sense of humor, was really interesting to talk to...and his blog was simply amazing......and after months of having no one to talk to and using my phone just as an alarm, it seemed it could have messages I could look forward to again...somebody would actually care to ask if I  reached home safe....I might even wake up with good morning messages again ...I would have somebody to call whenever I felt like, someone who would genuinely love to hear from me....

Now I'm not as stupid as you think though I tend to get carried away by a kind word, and this learning from mistakes is something my pea-brain is capable of.....and as immodest as I may sound, my little brain is fast... if you call six hours fast...and I call it fast...when compared to  say, a year or two...anyways, so when he called back at 2 am after a 4 hour talk just to say he missed me, my brain decided to do something it hasnt before...to pull the plug, and set off the alarm and call the cops....

You see, we had gtalked for 2 about hours asking each other loaded questions like colors or shades? ...and there are very few people I can last on gtalk with....and fewer for more than an hour...and only one person for more than 2 hours....no really, there is only one....so we chucked gtalk and and spoke for about 4 hours...now you get the six hour logic?...and as amazing as the conversation was,  I decided it was long enough....

Why? Because I wasnt feeling "that way"...and I knew I wont  either...blah blah....so my intelligent and considerate suggestion that we should stop talking immediately was put forth and the phone was hung up....

My brain, though smart asks too many questions for my liking - Did I make a mistake? After all, there are not make people who speak my language...what if I lost out on a great friend??...what if I culdve really learnt a lot from this guy?...what if I missed out on loads of fun??? You see, theres not much my brain doesnt think of....

Oh and I forgot to mention he saw it fit to ask me out in the meanwhile and I saw it fit to  reciprocate by  literally bashing his teeth in just because I was angry with all guys in general.....and thats how we sweetly parted...

But you see, almost immediately since then, a new man came into my life...waving a broom and shaking a slipper....the great lawyer (drumroll please !!!)...and got me into a hole so deep that I needed a fireman without a collarbone to rescue me (ok, I know!)...but beggars cant be choosers...so out of the window went my indignation about being asked out..and the roles were reversed pretty quickly...I was pretty much like I dont care how you treat me, but someone please talk to me...

Of course now...he has a brain too right??? ...so he told me to fuck off and I took it pretty badly...now you know I really meant it when I said roles were reversed...fortunately, I had a life (albeit without people in it) so I lived on...

Two months later... lo & behold!  - hes in my city!!!

Hey, can we meet?
Lets do coffee?
How about dinner??

(Some people sure have this incredibly ability to pretend as if nothing was wrong)~!
Yeah right! Like in hell !!! Not even to save my life! And I looked the other way.... even on gtalk!

If you know me, you'll know this is no big deal...these things always happen to me (or I make them happen depending on which way you prefer to see it)...You see, someone once told me that I am the type to reach out to people only when I am "alone and in the dark"....whatever else I may be, I know thats not true now... and I prefer to leave it here....

But I know I did the right thing this time...

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Third Wheel

It is really saddening to see posts after posts where someone is desparately trying to move on. I wish I could link to her blog here to show you but I cant. Though I barely know her, I check on her everyday to see if she is ok, and mostly she is not...Since theres nothing anyone can do, we've all taken to leaving really nasty comments on the guy's blog..

But theres this one thing he wrote which got me thinking.

Relationship is not a business deal. Its not about what it right or good for you...Its about what makes you happy, where your heart is...

How true! Wish all parents would get this...

Thursday, February 18, 2010

If I ruled the world - II

The dimly lit yellow lamp reminds you that you are all alone in a hotel room in an indistinct town. Its around 5 am in the morning, and you know you should wake up soon to catch that train to that village with an unpronounceable name. You have a dull headache and fever and are dreading the day which stretches painfully in front of you.

The days' newspaper is pushed brusquely under your door. Weary, but determined to get up, you drag yourself out of bed and glance at it through half-opened eyes.

The enormous headlines leap back at you - http://www.hindu.com/2010/02/17/stories/2010021758220100.htm

You are jolted out of your slumber, the drudgery disappears as if by magic,
the weariness is replaced by an emotion you cant quite place...something like terrible anger.... for some reason you think it mustve been love, but its over now.......

oh if only...!!!
before you can say parasite....!!!

Saturday, February 13, 2010

In the throes of democracy?

Just put down my copy of Can Asians think?.

I always thought democracy at every level is always desirable. But the author argues (and every cogently) that democracy must always be preceded by economic development. Well, he is right. For instance, no democratic Government can do what General McArthur did for Japan. Democracy here is the end, and not the means, something I had never considered....On the face of it, we now see why the Third World countries which have adopted democracy are inching along on the curve of equitable economic development but are nonetheless proud to be a democracy, which precedes all other considerations. That democracy was thrust on them in the name of  freedom of spirit to ensure that they remain backward... Any ideas? I have absolutely none...

(P.S: Only in Asia can you get away with asking Can Asians think? Try asking that of the Europe or the Americas...)

Emotional Atyachar!

I always thought it was a dumb concept because it can never catch people who are emotionally infidel...and thats the dangerous one, not physical...So the program was never anything to write home about. But please watch this clip and then this clip. 

This one couple, for reasons I cant explain really made me sad - the girl, the guy...everything is as if its been lifted out of a nightmare...just the fact that she is unable to even confront her guy rattles my every bone...no woman should allow herself to become this...or guys for that matter....maybe nature should be be kind to them and weed them out by natural selection... because its really not worth what it does to you as a person...

On and me finally floated a totally anonymous blog on Wordpress - its a literal account of all my dreams as I remember them..and I intend to keep it updated...I wish I could link it here because the comments are really amusing...but sadly, I cant.

Friday, February 12, 2010

And heres the big back...

Sorry about the distasteful title which has been borrowed from Half Asleep in Frog Pajamas by the way - and thats a book everyone should read I say....wow, that rhymes...anyways, you should read the book to know what the title really means...27 is hardly an age to be world-weary no? But what else would you be, when the enormous futility of it all  is staring at you in the face???

I hate it when people make you convey bad stuff but if its anything good, they convey it themselves.. I am scared I am becoming grumpy and a complaint-box - now whens the last time we used that??But then why do I wake up everyday, ready to kill everyone? Do you just realize how much of restraint we have to exercise every damn day in so many things? I am scared of becoming fat...and I think Ive given up eating for good...I hate it when people dont take me seriously...but I refuse to give up colors and dress drab and adorn horn-rimmed glasses and start eating organic stuff and talking fluff...that also rhymes!....I refuse to talk about the weather and food, NO...try if you want and see me bite back...I hate all these sleazy men who at the tiniest chance try to flirt....!Someone told me I seem to be aging backwards...huh...if so, I think the termites ate my past ...ah thank God, I thought there'll be nothing light in this post :)...but if one more person says I should marry now because the "biological clock is ticking"....!!!

P.S: Heres advice that'll stand you in very good stead - now and always - dont be picky about clothes and food et al  - be picky only about what you feed your brain...cos thats all that counts dearie...Asleep at Heavens' Gate wouldve been a better title no? Okkkk I know!!!...just dont say it.

Monday, February 08, 2010

The "hi-fi" family

Well thats what we called ourselves in college :) And we met up over the weekend, after six long years...though the entire group was not there, it was worth every bit of the effort and planning...

You know, I always underestimated the value of girl-friends - many people have asked me why all my friends have been guys lately...this was not intentional I tell you...and I am not tomboyish or anything, quite the opposite, in fact...but somehow, most of the friends Ive made in the last 4-5 years or so have been guys....and frankly, I never made the distinction - friends were friends, be it girls or guys...and so when the SATC group came up with Let us be each others' soulmates, and the men in our lives be just guys we have have fun with, I was the one who laughed the loudest...

We were a group of five in college.. each as different as you could get...back then, we never did  any of the regular stuff like shopping or movies or eating out....in all the four years of engineering, we managed only one outing ...and you definitely wont believe me when I say that we never even gossiped! We were more into books and academics and writing papers and stuff like that...anyone would think that we had  a sub-zero fun quotient...but our room was easily one of the happiest rooms in the hostel....we were good friends to each other, friends we could depend on, friends who would be there by your side when  the chips were down...

It was like becoming friends all over again over the last two days..and boy, was it different this time !!!!  All of us stayed over at my place...and now I know what shop till you drop means :)..we bought like a million gifts for each other, tirelessly explored all the sales at shopping malls and Commercial Street..and oh!!! see this Tee I got...nice no? I TOTALLY LOVE it :)))...we ate till we could eat no more, had a tea-ball at Infinitea - all English with the baked beans and what not :), see the pic ...and we dressed up enough to make up for all the four years - I swear they made me change no less than 8 outfits yesterday :)...we even managed to catch a movie - Couples Retreat...which we highly recommend, by the way....talked for hours and hours, caught up on each others news and lives...and all of us felt the same - that the sad things in our lives magically disappeared  over the two days....I cant believe what  I nearly missed had I stayed back in Madurai when my train ticket didn't come through..and grudgingly I admit SATC may be on to something  here, even if not soulmates...

Diva, you said that having us meant having someone to lean on, even if it is for something as small as an opinion...Ive been thinking  about it...and how right you are!!
Shinu, you shouldve been there, I really have a bone to pick with you on this..
Vids, we missed you and your famous dry wit :)
Nasma & Goofy - we really should do this more often, no?

All in all, I really couldnt ask for a better group of friends...

Love you hi-fi :)
Thank you for being there!

Monday, February 01, 2010

If I ruled the world - Part I

So me decided to go on this deluded trip and pretend I am in charge of the world. To my surprise, I found that there are quite a few things I would like to change. I'll write them in parts to keep it simple.

Ive always wondered who on earth decided that for every 5 days we work, we should get 2 days off. And why do we follow it generation after generation without even thinking if it is a good idea? 

I get the logic for 24 hours in a day, we cant really help that, and even perhaps for 12 months in a year..But I dont get the 4 weeks in a month and 7 days to a week logic. Can someone tell me the reason? I recommend  that our week should have 6 days and we should have 5 weeks a month. It all works out the same. And it is neater because it fits better into the number of days in a month - because 6 * 5 = 30 days is a lot better than 7 * 4 = 28 days. Right?

Now for, every 4 days we work, we should have 2 days off. Its only common sense that we rest atleast half of the time we work. 

This way, we have 4 days * 5 weeks = 20 days a month of work.
And in the current system, we have 5 days * 4 weeks = 20 days a month of work.

Its the same see?..and definitely so if we were to argue on a minimum number of working days...and this way, our holidays are better-spaced and life will be easier....Nice na? So why dont we adopt this???

There are countries that have as little as 3 days in a week to as many as 20 days. But they are a depressingly small percentage of the world, which largely swears by the 7-day week with 5 working days and 2 holidays...well, not if I ruled :)

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